I always let my husband go hunt, and go to calf ropings. Its been like that since the beginning of our marriage almost 8 yrs. ago. The problem now is that we have a toddler, and him going out every night is driving me insane. He tells me its work because he is breaking colts while he is hunting and roping, and yeah that equals more money for us when he sells them, but its like every night there is a roping or a friend comes over to hog hunt on our place with him. I mean I know he isn’t cheating because I know where he is at all times, and the ropings are held here, its just that he is busy until he comes in at sometimes 2 in the morning. He is with his friends this whole time having a good time and drinking, and I am stuck in the house with my son (who is wanting his daddy the whole time) I’m cooking for usually him AND his 4 friends, and now I need to study for school, and I need a break from all this. We live literally 40 miles from anywhere, no neighbors or family close, so I have zero help. I’m going insane. I know he is working and I feel guilty for asking him to slow down, because he has always been a workaholic, its just that his work is his fun as well, and I have no fun. My break is the one class I take at the college 50 miles away, one night a week, and its work. The rest of the days I am online taking classes, cooking cleaning, running around after my son, and then my husband doesn’t help at all. Since I married him this way is it fair for me to ask him to change just because we now have a child? Or is that wrong? I am sorry this is such a long rant, I just need advice, and my friends all say the same thing which is “leave him” Which I wouldn’t do because we have a passion and love for each other and we are soul mates. This is the only issue. What should I say to him?
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He works here also. He has no boss, which makes him work harder for us. I have told him, but its stuff that in his mind needs to be done. I think he should hire out more help, but he sees money wasted that way. There are over 150 cows to feed, horses to feed and train, dogs to take care of, pastures to mow, and there isn’t enough time in the day. I guess I should just hire someone for him myself, but that would probably aggervate him. I don’t know. Its just hard.