Maybe its nothing…my boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend drove his car back from the airport…what to think?
I live in California, my boyfriend is from Minnesota but here working, we met two months ago. We have spent every night together, and are very intense and close. The night we met, he had a girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. He broke up with her the next day on the phone, but she never really accepted it. Also she is watching his dog, has keys to his house, car, gets his mail, etc. He has been friends with her for 10 years. I am 39 he is 32. He recently went back home for ten days to hunt. When he left, he was supposed to tell her to accept it, get his keys, etc. Instead, he saw her for about 20 minutes so he said, went to the woods to hunt, she was in New York the last 5 days of his 10 day trip. However. When he drove to the airport, he left his car the for her to take home. So, when I picked him up from the airport when he flew back, she was calling him looking for his car to drive home which was at the airport in their hometown. We had talked about moving to one state or the other to be together, but have never actually said I love you or that we are boyfriend and girlfriend, although we act like it I assumed as much – but – he said he just didnt want to deal with her drama while he was on a vacation and that it was just easier for now until he goes back … but isnt letting her be in denial and borrow your car the same as letting her be your girlfriend again, or am I over reacting? He has been very honest about things so far, I have never actually caught him lying but I just think its a red flag – isnt that disrespectful to me? He said it was just the easiest thing to do to let her drive it home because their flights were so close, he did tell me, so should I just see what happens? He is very sweet to me otherwise and I dont really want to blow it … and its a difficult thing to break up with someone who thinks they are going to be with you forever. They dont live together, and he says he has never in ten years told her he loves her, but… ugghh I would love some mature advice about how to react or not react here. I think we really have a chance to be happy andI do understand he is in a difficult position but GEEZ you let her drive your car arent you perpetuating this idea she can stay with him?? Advice please.
Maybe hes still into her? i think hes playing you. :/
I think you’re overreacting. Don’t you trust him? Like you said, they have been friends for 10 years. I think you’re being jealous. You could talk to him about it. If you’re worried, tell him to MAKE IT CLEAR to her that he’s not interested in her like that anymore.
I understand for women its very easy to assume and get ahead of oneself. But just like Steve Harvey said we as women cannot assume anything with men. The man is suppose to let us know what “label” we have with them. And its true! As far as I can see you are just a fun moment. It is so obious that he is not doing anything to avoid the “ex-girlfriend” of over a year. Sit down and see the bigger picture. I strongly believe especially at is age he should be really straight forward and let you know what you are to him. Especially is there is talk about moving in together. Dont get ahead of your self yet. If he fails to do that on his own sit down and be straight forward and ask him what excatly is it that both of you guys have. Never sugar coat anything with men i know love is blind but remember its not stupid! I wish you the best.